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Subject:It doesnt matter where you bring you along.

How many people do you know that are always "if' or "whening'....if i had more money, if I could travel more, when I get the big job for XXX. Everything in life today makes them unhappy and they are doing what I call “awfullizing:


Many people pin their happiness on something in the future, few people have the ability to look at the present, the now,  the here and now, this immediate moment.

We’ve been trained to always look ahead and then soon we are living ahead and its all the same pattern again, we are looking forward to having something different happen and are not happy with the here and now.


Soon life passes you by and this has been who you are and how you cope.


Most people living this way are established in unhealthy patterns particularly of anger and depression.

You can change and stop your pattern now.

When you feel like being angry and kicking the door, you can stop, you can breathe deep, look deep inside, do something unpredictable and different, go for a walk and look at why you are angry.

Chances are you are angry at yourself and have learned to project out your anger to control others around you. This pattern is scary and unhealthy and becomes well embedded, but it can change.

Perhaps when you are angry you clam up, you refuse to talk, you shut down emotionally. This is unhealthy as well, the person who refuses to talk, who won’t communicate holds all the power and control in the relationship as you cannot move forward without talking and negotiating issues forward so you keep yourself and the relationship stuck on hold. No emotional growth can occur when you are in a holding silent pattern.

Learning as a couple to work together, to learn new techniques can be fun, invigorating and make your life into one where you can appreciate the here and now and stay focused on today’s life not going down the road into always looking for something better. Not projecting blame onto the other partner .

Learn to take responsibility for your own behaviour.OWN IT. Learn to appreciate who you are and your good self.

Subject:Hi from Whistler

Hello all PASS therapists and members


Being happy is something you have to learn. I often surprise myself by saying "Wow, this is it. I guess I'm happy. I got a home I love. A career that I love. I'm even feeling more and more at peace with myself." If there's something else to happiness, let me know. I'm ambitious for that, too.


I'm a great believer that any tool that enhances communication has profound effects in terms of how people can learn from each other, and how they can achieve the kind of freedoms that they're interested in.

Subject:Feeling Alive

Today was a great day went down to the ocean to catch high tide and surf some waves.


As I was standing up to make a toe edge turn I started to relieze all the good thigs in my life. Sometimes you just need a change to see what you really have is great!





Subject:New Blogs

This new blog system is really cool.



We have added a feature called file sharing to your profile, as you will see a tab titled "Files".  This is so that in the event that a therapist would like to share documents, request reading, or just send something over to the client it can all be done within the network.  Note that only therapists may share files with clients.


PASS Social Network.



Dear PASS Therapists.

You will have noticed exploring the site that you may create blogs, comment on others and also follow other people's blog posts.  To do this, underneath their profile picture, click follow "username"'s blogs.  You may also add them to your contacts.

I suggest following my blogs as I will be posting updated information on site news and features.



Subject:Healing Charlie Sheen

Healing Charlie Sheen

Okay... here's the big one! (and yes it is my obvious exploitation of an individuals condition).

How do we go about healing a mind that some have said is self-imposed ego maniacal; suffering from organic psychosis, too many drugs, too much alcohol, organic brain disorder... etc.????

Some people are angry, some won't watch his show anymore, some profess to never having had liked him; some think he's evil; some think he shouldn't deserve to be a father, and some, are envious and jealous.

I want you to expand your thinking for a moment and consider the reason that we notice or pay attention to all of the apparent problems we see in another?

What is it about us?... you know that part that makes it impossible not to look at an accident as we drive by? that makes it impossible for us to not know about Charlie Sheen? Are we genuinely concerned? or quietly entertained in some way?

I'll be the first to put my hand up to admit that it's entertaining in a bizarre, surreal kind of way.

So, here's the big one... we can heal ourselves and others on a conscious level, in a 2 dimensional manner. You present me with a problem... I com up witha solution! Problem created... problem solved! We can see the solutions almost as soon as we identify the "problem". The "problem" with this manner of "healing" is that it assumes varying levels of pain, of distress, etc., all primarily interpreted by the see-er of the problem. I'm sure you can already see how this can lead to another problem ... and perhaps another solution.

In the case of Charlie, he should go to counselling, he should go to re-hab, he should eat better, he should exercise more, he should focus on his work and his kids... (shouldn't we all find a better way!)

The solution fits the interpretation on a simplistic kind of level... What he doesn't see and what we all have difficulty with is that there is only one healing... the healing of the mind. It is the mind that creates, projects, manifests, defends against and gathers evidence to support itself and it's beliefs.

In the end it is our decision to be focused on and believe in our guilt that needs to be healed. Not that we see ourselves doing this, in fact we strive consciously for the opposite.We are then angry about it, frustrated by it, project it out into the world and then need to blame others or other circumstances for "it" which we created in the first place.

Albert Einstein said that we cannot resolve a problem on the same level that it was created at.
We need others to help, we need other minds to remind us to remind ourselves... we need to not feel guilty (or create guilt) for our innocence and ignorance.

The key to healing is understanding, clarifying and FORGIVENESS. and remember this must be done on a different level than the level it was created at!

It requires another person to see what we can't see. Call me to help you see.

Although Charlie Sheen may be "entertaining" to us for the moment, there will always be a replacement for this entertainment until we heal. Until then let's focus on becoming more aware, waking up, understanding, and forgiving. Start with you... we'll work on the rest of the world later.

Until later,



Most people do not like the idea of taking medication... It can be reminder (we think) that there really is something wrong that needs to be corrected rather than, perhaps, an organic dysfunction that is primarily genetic.

I am often asked about the use and belief structure regarding pharmaceutical medications for depression and/or anxiety. The litmus test I include in my questioning cover many areas... the first of which is physiological.

What is your medical/family history? Has there been or is there evidence of depression or anxiety in other family members? i.e. siblings, parents, aunts, uncles, grandparents...
Have you had a complete physical yourself? There are many medical imbalances that can contribute to the way you are feeling, particularly in areas where you may feel less able to cope and manage your life in an effective manner.

If you are dealing with an organic/genetic issue then it may be that you have already been trying many different ways to manage the "problem" and yet still struggle. You may have read "solutions" on the internet, in books... talked to others suffering, or with therapists or counsellors... still with no desired outcome.

This suggests that the "solution" is not to be found in additional information or the "right" therapist. It may be that medication may also be helpful and the idea should be explored with your physician or naturopath to help re-balance the genetic issues so that therapy will be more effective.

Try the differing perspective that the issues you are dealing with may have an organic or physiological component and is not part of who you really are, it is not your identity, although I know many of my clients initially identify with it in this way. i.e. I'm a depressed or anxious person as opposed to a person with depression or anxiety.

Medication may, for some people, be a contributing factor to allowing you feel more able to focus on making the beneficial changes you want in your life. Check your resistance if this has been suggested to you and at least allow yourself to consider the idea as a possibility.
Medication is not "the answer", it is not a happy pill, it will not do the therapeutic work required on its own, however, it can be the additional alteration required. I suggest that you work with a therapist first to help you identify and begin to address the obvious concerns. If you find that you are not able to create the appropriate changes, it may be an indication that medication will help.

If you have questions, speak with your doctor or contact me...
Until later,
Leland Clipperton, H.S.C.

Subject:Anxiety Therapy?
Feeling Anxious?

Feeling anxious is a common and normal response to situations in our lives typically created by excessive demands that we are not accustomed to like writing an exam, heavy workloads or dealing with problems in a relationship.

These feelings are different from symptoms of an anxiety disorder. People with anxiety disorder have difficulty finding a reason for why they’re feeling the way they do. Their anxiety may be triggered by certain events but the symptoms often occur seemingly on their own. They can appear as a prolonged sense of distress and fear without an obvious reason. People with an anxiety disorder will typically begin to accommodate the physical and cognitive sensations by avoiding certain situations and can become agoraphobic, which is primarily an avoidance of all situations where the person does not feel they have a sense of control. People with anxiety feel at risk, fearful, out of control and helpless.

They often feel that nothing can help. They may feel embarrassed or ashamed and that they should be able to manage this on their own. There are various treatments available and the first step is to increase your awareness and understanding of your anxiety.

What are anxiety disorders?

There are different types of anxiety disorders which affect behaviour, thoughts, emotions and physical health. Anxiety is primarily caused by a combination of biopsychosocial factors; biological being what we inherent from our parents genes, psychological being a persons character and nature and sociolological being a persons life situation. It is important to have a routine medical examination to help understand your medical condition and to examine any physical contributing factors. You may be dealing with more than one type of disorder and the symptoms can coexist with depression, eating disorders or substance abuse.

Types of anxiety:

Panic Disorder – Typically known as panic attacks which can occur without warning and are often accompanied by sudden feelings of terror. Physically, an attack may cause chest pain, heart palpitations, shortness of breath, sweating, dizziness, abdominal discomfort, feelings of unreality and fear of dying. When a person avoids situations that he or she fears may cause a panic attack, his or her condition is described as panic disorder with agoraphobia.

Phobias - Phobias are divided into two categories: social phobia, which involves fear of social situations, and specific phobias, such as fear of spiders, flying, blood and heights, etc.

Social Phobia - People with social phobia feel a paralyzing, irrational self-consciousness about social situations. They often have an intense fear of being observed or of doing something horribly wrong in front of other people. They feelings cause people to often become reclusive, tentative and paranoid. The feelings are so extreme that people with social phobia tend to avoid objects or situations that might stimulate that fear, which dramatically reduces their ability to lead a normal life.

Specific Phobias - Fear of flying, fear of heights and fear of open spaces are some typical specific phobias. People suffering from a specific phobia are overwhelmed by unreasonable fears, which they are unable to control. Exposure to feared situations can cause them extreme anxiety and panic, even if they recognize that their fears are illogical.

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder - A terrifying experience in which serious physical harm occurred or was threatened can cause post-traumatic stress disorder. Survivors of rape, child abuse, war, car accidents or a natural disaster may develop post-traumatic stress disorder. Common symptoms include flashbacks, during which the person re-lives the terrifying experience, nightmares, depression and feelings of anger or irritability. They often fear that the trauma will re-occur at some point.

Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder - This is a condition in which people suffer from persistent unwanted thoughts (obsessions) and / or rituals (compulsions) which they find impossible to control. Typically, obsessions concern contamination, doubting (such as worrying that the iron hasn't been turned off) and disturbing sexual or religious thoughts. Compulsions include washing, checking, organizing and counting.

Generalized Anxiety Disorder –Experienced like a “free-floating anxiety” characterized by repeated, exaggerated worry about routine life events and activities. You may anticipate the worst, even if others would say they have no reason to expect it. Physical symptoms can include nausea, trembling fatigue, muscle tension, or headache.

How can anxiety disorders be treated? Absolutely!

There are two main medical approaches to treating an anxiety disorder: (1) drug therapy and (2) cognitive-behavioural therapy (CBT). Combining the two types of treatment is th most effective.

Because most anxiety disorders have at least some biological component, anti-depressants and anti-anxiety drugs may be prescribed to help relieve the physical symptoms and to accelerate the therapeutic process. Nobody like taking pills, however, it is important to be open to getting the help and to understand that it can help accelerate the therapeutic process. Speak with your physician about possible medications.

Therapeutic strategies can be effective in reducing symptoms in each of the anxiety disorders. The techniques used include cognitive restructuring, to help people turn their anxious thoughts, interpretations and predictions into thoughts which are more rational and less anxious. People with anxiety disorders may also benefit from controlled exposure to feared objects or situations.

The goal is to help you regain a sense of effective control in your life without anxiety. Begin by charting or writing about your anxiety... when it occurs, how you experience it physically, mentally and emotionally. Speak with your doctor about your anxiety and then contact a therapist familiar with appropriate treatment. 

Until later,

Subject:Online Therapy

Online Therapy

Let’s be clear right from the get go… there is some controversy regarding the benefits of online therapy. When you look online you will be able to read credible information from various perspectives. Professionals who have been practicing for many years are generally expressing reluctance around using current technologies for psychotherapy as it does not offer the same experience that a face to face in the same room provides. Some refer to it as a simulated experience…

I have always been fascinated by resistance. It is frequently a part of the therapeutic experience. For most, resistance seems to be an inherent part of being human. We tend not to trust something/someone we don’t know. We need “evidence” before being willing to reduce our resistance. Things that are different we can find threatening and make assumptions often without challenging those assumptions. I say this because it directly effects how we perceive our world and create change, or not. At the vey least it’s worthy of exploring what the process of change is for each of us and to collate the commonalities, including the discussion regarding the validity of online therapy. I try to be aware of my own resistance and ask myself, “What am I afraid of here?”

So… I digress… back to the point.

Online therapy is a different experience than when you sit down with a professional psychotherapist. It has to be… it’s missing the physical presence as such the physically expressed “clues” may not be as apparent to some in a Skype type of connection. This will likely improve and be less of a concern (to some). With high speed internet coupled with outstanding video and audio connections available, there’s probably less missed than anticipated or thought by some…

Therapy, by its nature, is a journey between the client and the therapist and although I hope that all clients I work with will find their place of peace in the process, feel more self-empowered and learn through the time we work together… I am also aware that the client is the one doing the work with the guidance of the therapist. It is a mistake to not work with the client’s information and report. If they find something helpful… a particular method, comment, feedback etc…. I as a therapist should pay attention to that. So, it really isn’t up to me to say what’s helpful or not, I need to respond to a client’s ability to progress. I participate in guiding through that process using appropriate therapeutic techniques. If a client prefers the convenience of doing online work and finds it beneficial, then it is not for me to judge its relevance or benefit for them.

It may be easier for some to understand the difference between counselling and psychotherapy… With the risk of oversimplifying, counselling is typically session/time restricted like through an Employee Assistance Program or Family Health Unit or other similar “sponsored” agency. Counselling typically deals with immediate presenting concerns of a client currently experiencing a crisis of some kind. Counselling helps the client expand their understanding and perspective of that situation and provides strategies and options around what to do. Psychotherapy includes the initial process but includes, through an ongoing process, an exploration of what got the client to where they are. Issues of transference are important to a psychotherapeutic relationship as well as exploration of psychopathologies. The nature of most online therapy, although therapeutic, tends to be more like counselling. It tends to be more crises oriented and shorter in duration. Online counseling can lead into a deeper psychotherapeutic relationship and there is certainly benefit in getting help for a crisis that you are experiencing.

I was one of the “old school” psychotherapists who were adamant about not doing online therapy until I began to see that, in spite of the obvious differences, there are distinct advantages to online therapy.

I started with telephone therapy, working with existing clients who had moved or were working away from my office and not able to physically be present. Setting up appointment times became easier as we could set up a mutually convenient time that could also be outside my normal office hours, they could talk from their hotel rooms, offices, etc. and I could work from a location other than my office if I chose. Because I already had an established therapeutic bond, the work was reportedly beneficial and effective. Yes, again, it was a different experience, but still very therapeutic for the clients… and keep in mind, we were just talking on the telephone!

If you add the opportunity of video and having a “virtual” experience, I now believe that there is no reason to think that “virtual” therapy doesn’t work, in spite of the physical presence being missing.

Other advantages are:

Getting help is more convenient for clients who, because of social stigma or other fears or concerns, may not have accessed help previously.

There are no geographical boundaries. Clients can be anywhere in the world with the internet and access help.

Clients with physical or mobility challenges can access help more easily.

Clients that live in more remote areas can access help.

Scheduling can be done online at mutually agreeable times.

Payment can be done online.

Clients who have transportation challenges can get a similar experience from home.

Typically sessions with me are one hour in length. Clients can set up differing session times that may be more suitable for their schedule. They may only need half an hour and may need 2 hours.

Scheduling can be more regular with less concern about client’s typical work or family schedule.

Although online therapy is different, it offers a very similar therapeutic experience that most clients find convenient and beneficial.

Leland Clipperton, H.S.C.



We have all heard it (and perhaps said it ourselves) before.... this is not re-inventing nor inventing the wheel....


you know.. "you should be more grateful!"... "Count your blessings!" etc. etc.

yeh, yeh, yeh... enough already.

We typically have a defensive responsive at the time we hear this message because we're busy not being grateful and don't want to hear about it ... you know the blah, blah, blah...

Why should I be more grateful when I don't have what I want? or what I have... or at least part of it... sucks!? Don't most of us think that... perhaps quietly, secretively?

We have this seemingly innate need to believe in our own deprivation. We can easily focus on what we don't have, or on what we do have that’s wrong… rather than looking differently at the reasons why we have what we have.

I need to tell you that it's a different experience when you realize that we are creators, or at least co-creators of our lives (not that it's your fault!). It is not the external that is creating the belief in deprivation... it is our interpretation. We do this so that we can justify blaming our situation on something other than ourselves, other people, etc. and not take responsibility for what we don't have (or do have)... all the time forgetting that it is us who is interpreting that information!

When we understand that this MUST be the case (we’re the only ones making the decisions), then we can begin to take more responsibility to consciously make (create) different interpretations, to make more informed decisions to not blame.

I often tell clients that the most difficult and challenging part about sitting across from me is becoming fully self-accountable and self-responsible... and that the best part about sitting across from me (their therapist) is becoming fully self-accountable and self-responsible...

This does two things… it relieves us of the identity of being victims (or at least makes that more difficult) and that we do have the ability and control to create the desired changes. We don't have to wait for the situation, other person or circumstance to change in order for us to feel better... be different.

In the end we are self-directed... on some level it is only our decisions that direct and guide us... we are, like or not, in control (which is a good thing!). What we suffer from is ignorance, misinformation and making less conscious, uninformed decisions.

To take your desires (things you feel you don't have or alternatively… things you have that you don’t want) and make them real... something needs to change. It's not that you can't have that (whatever that is), but it is our task then to figure out what we're doing right now that is disabling us to acquire/accomplish that which we are really choosing (on some level) to not have! It could be that you are secretly telling yourself that your won't have or can't have whatever (or whoever), that you will never have... whatever... you don't deserve it, you're unworthy, it's too hard to get anyway, it'll take too long, you're not smart enough, it costs too much... whatever the justification is... you WILL believe in it and it WILL seem very real.

What we can forget is that... isn't it us that is creating that focus, that interpretation, that justification, that reality????

Do you want to change this old habit? Try something different (but not that unique!)

One way to put this change into practice right now... TODAY... is by expressing gratitude.

Focus on saying thank you... to yourself, to others... yes, for EVERYTHING! You, after all, chose to have "it" (being an undesirable) there in your life anyway... didn't you? (you just may not have realized it?)

You, after all chose to have "it" in your life, or not in your life. There must be a reason... Let's figure that out and maybe it'll open up another door. What have you got to lose? How much will it cost you to practice being grateful?

You don't even have to really believe the practice of saying thank you to have the practice change your attitude, your outlook, your approach. The idea is to metaphorically shake up the tree a bit. Others will respond differently to you. Take note of the differences YOU are creating! … within yourself and in others.


Being "in control" is actually a good thing. Remember, if our lives are something we (at the least) co-create, then... if there is part of it you want to change... there is no real reason that it can't, other than what we "make up" and then justify and make real in our minds. If we can do that, then we can attempt other methods that will, at the least, create a different result... and therefore a more informed decision.

Also remember that you cannot change a problem on the same level it was created at! What if abundance really is there/here for us to enjoy... today!

Until later,


Help is here.

Subject:Healing... One Mind at a Time


We all tend to be very rigid in our minds regarding what we believe the world to be as well as then feeling the compelling need to blame others or the situation as the cause of our demise.


We can even believe (irrationally) that people who love us consciously create harm to us... this is our ego thinking running wild... trying to protect itself and it's beliefs.


We have a subconscious pre-existing conclusion that is often self-sabotaging and then set out on a daily basis to gather evidence to support our sense of reality...


We do not set out to do this consciously or willfully. When we are hurt as a result of our efforts, we then need to blame because why would we act in such horrific ways. Why would we choose to harm ourselves? Most of us claim to not know any of these thoughts, not want to explore the belief that we are, at the least, contributing to the existence that we complain about.


Healing is not a spiritual act as our spirit knows nothing of what we are doing. Our spirit is about connection, love, nurturing, altruistic caring... it is not about, nor can it be about fear, judgment, guilt, punishment, etc. These are all brought about from our ego needs... our humanity.


The healing that is required is our minds. What we hold in our minds is what we hold in our hands. We project our minds into a reality and then point at that reality as the perpetrator.


I tell many of my clients that the most challenging and difficult part of being in psychotherapy is becoming fully accountable and self-responsible... the other part is allowing an integral connection to occur with another human being without judgment.


If we are then somewhat responsible for our situations, then isn't that the good news???? We can change our lives in a fundamental way. This is not accomplished without challenge and cannot be accomplished on our own... but it can and does occur... one mind at a time.


We all tend to be very rigid in our minds regarding what we believe the world to be as well as then feeling the compelling need to blame others or the situation as the cause of our demise.


We can even believe (irrationally) that people who love us consciously create harm to us... this is our ego thinking running wild... trying to protect itself and it's beliefs.


We have a subconscious pre-existing conclusion that is often self-sabotaging and then set out on a daily basis to gather evidence to support our sense of reality...


We do not set out to do this consciously or willfully. When we are hurt as a result of our efforts, we then need to blame because why would we act in such horrific ways. Why would we choose to harm ourselves? Most of us claim to not know any of these thoughts, not want to explore the belief that we are, at the least, contributing to the existence that we complain about.


Healing is not a spiritual act as our spirit knows nothing of what we are doing. Our spirit is about connection, love, nurturing, altruistic caring... it is not about, nor can it be about fear, judgment, guilt, punishment, etc. These are all brought about from our ego needs... our humanity.


The healing that is required is our minds. What we hold in our minds is what we hold in our hands. We project our minds into a reality and then point at that reality as the perpetrator.

I tell many of my clients that the most challenging and difficult part of being in psychotherapy is becoming fully accountable and self-responsible... the other part is allowing an integral connection to occur with another human being without judgment.


If we are then somewhat responsible for our situations, then isn't that the good news???? We can change our lives in a fundamental way. This is not accomplished without challenge and cannot be accomplished on our own... but it can and does occur... one mind at a time.


Subject:Post Traumatic Stress Disorder


Post traumatic Stress Disordercan develop after a person experienced, witnessed, or was confronted with an event that involved actual or threatened death or serious injury.  This causes intense fear or helplessness. The traumatic event is then re-experienced, associated with avoidance of stimuli related to the trauma, and involves heightened arousal. Usually the symptoms develop shortly after the event, but may take years.  For the diagnosis to be made, symptoms must last for at least a month.

The prognosis for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is moderate to very good with therapy.  Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is easiest to treat when the traumatic event was acute, or occurred only one time (e.g., car accident).  Situations that involved chronic, or ongoing trauma (e.g., ongoing sexual abuse, war) are more of a challenge.

Approximately 7%-8% of people will develop Post Traumatic Stress Disorder in their lifetime, and the prevalence in combat veterans and victims of raperanges from 10% to as high as 30%. Almost half of those who seek mental health services have been found to suffer from PTSD. When untreated, PTSD can have devastating and far reaching consequences. Relationships with family, spouses and society at large are disrupted.  Those with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder are at greater risk for cigarettes, alcohol, and marijuana use. By contrast, people whose PTSD is treated have better success at overcoming substance-abuse problems.

Persons with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder benefit by learning how to manage their anger and anxiety.  This then has a positive effect on interpersonal relationships. The use of Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction techniques, including deep breathing and progressive muscle relaxation can help people with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder master their emotional and physical symptoms. The therapist might also use exposure-based cognitive behavioral therapy by having the person with PTSD recollect their traumatic experiences using images or verbal recall.

The quality of the relationship with the therapist is crucial for exposure therapy as the client needs to trust that the therapist will not go faster than they can tolerate. A number of different factors contribute to PTSD symptoms, including early childhood experiences and current relationships. People protect themselves from upsetting thoughts and feelings about traumatic events in different ways. Therapy may need to delve into the way past influences shape present perceptions and experiences.

Subject:Benzos and Anxiety




I am on benzodiazepines, should I tell my counselor?



"Benzodiazepines are indicated for the short-term relief (two to four weeks only) of anxiety that is severe, disabling or subjecting the individual to unacceptable distress, occurring alone or in association with insomnia or short-term psychosomatic, organic or psychotic illness." – UK guidelines.


The US does not have a protocol but there is a Citizen Petition asking the FDA to require more accurate prescribing guidelines and side effect information for all benzodiazepines.  You can email [email protected] for information about this.  You might want to make your counselor aware of the petition.


Dependence usually does not occur in four weeks or less, but has been known to develop in as little as a week. With long-term use, dependence occurs in almost 100% of cases.  Over time, physicians often increase the dose because interdose withdrawal symptoms are mistakenly thought to mean the base level of anxiety has increased.


 Ask your counselor how familiar she is with issues surrounding benzodiazepine use.  Make sure your counselor takes a complete medication history, including benzodiazepines you may have taken in the past.


Not infrequently, you may find yourself consulting a counselor for anxiety symptoms that are compounded by the effects of benzos.  If your counselor is unaware the role benzos may play, you may end up being treated for symptoms caused by benzodiazepines as opposed to symptoms for which the benzos were originally prescribed. 


If you have issues with benzodiazepines, your counselor can help you recognize the difference between your baseline anxiety level, and emotional reactivity caused by benzodiazepines.  Getting off benzodiazepines requires a closely monitored and very gradual taper.  Unfortunately many physicians are unaware of this and your counselor may need to help find a doc who understands the need for a very slow taper. 

Subject:BiPolar Disorders


BiPolar Disorders  

If you think you may have bipolarity, have been diagnosed with a bipolar spectrum disorder, or have a family member, partner, or friend so affected, I can help.

First, some important considerations:

  • Making a diagnosis of bipolar disorder can be tricky, even for trained professionals, so it’s best to see a psychiatrist rather than a family doctor for medication. 
  • Bipolar can often be over diagnosed.  According to Mark Zimmerman, MD, professor of psychiatry and at Brown University,” In about half of patients previously diagnosed with bipolar disorder, we couldn't confirm the diagnosis."
  • There are real dangers to over diagnosis; among them are unnecessary prescriptions for mood stabilizers and their powerful side effects, and the associated social stigma.
  • Patients with anxiety, agitation, irritability, and restlessness that do not persist are sometimes misdiagnosed with bipolar disorder.
  • One reason the disorder is over diagnosed is because so much has been written about it being under-recognized.

The experience of bipolarity is different for every person affected.   One shared feature is a lack of insight into mood variations. Tracking moods is important to help identify mood changes before they become self-reinforcing and turn into full blown episodes.

A person’s inability to track mood changes is more prominent in hypomanic and manic episodes than during depression.  Getting out ‘ahead of the curve’ can make a great deal of difference, as there is a self-perpetuating aspect to bipolar episodes.  Suicide attempts are a serious concern during depressive episodes.

The first symptom of an upswing can be a dream about gambling.  If this is not recognized as the precursor to risk taking, the behavior, once begun, is more difficult to stop.  And financial loss can far outlast the mood elevation. 

Insight is not only impaired during elevated or depressed mood cycles, but is also present in euthymia (normal mood states).  In the last decade, cognitive aspects have been identified.  These involve more than distractibility, and go to the core of the reason people with bipolar spectrum disorders have difficulty with socialization.  E.g., persons may feel left out of conversations because of a lack of eye contact, self-focused attention, and dysfunctional attitudes.  Underlying issues with executive functioning have been identified, in particular difficulties with changing attention sets.

Mood charts, diaries and journaling are useful tools to track mood, symptoms, and socialization.  Some individuals find these tools no more than an added distraction, or find tracking tedious. Modifications can be made, and time limited tracking, or simplified charts can be used.  Charting helps identify high caffeine consumption, sleep issues and food that contribute to mood destabilization.


Things are hard, they get even harder. 


I know that.





Subject:Follow Blog Posts

You may follow my blog posts and get email notifications when I post new blogs and stuff.  Thats really cool.

Subject:carers of parents or disabled family member

why is it so hard for carers to get help by getting some time out. Why is there no direct contact with a counsellor 24 hrs of the day. I cared for my mother when she had knee replacement surgery. At the time I was also studying for my psychology degree. I still dont know how I coped. Any thoughts on this.

Subject:Is Someone You Know an Abusive Person?


Is Someone You Know an Abusive Person?

The Center on Domestic Violence has a great identification chart that helps you know if you're around an abuser, or if you might being unaware that you are being abused.  Love sometimes confuses us, and we may minimize what is happening in our life. 

A chart has been developed by the Domestic Abuse Intervention Project, to help you decide if you are being abused, if you know someone else who is,  if you know an abuser, or if you yourself may be demonstrating abusive behavior, the Chart is located at

I hope you'll take a few minutes to review the chart, and post any comments you may have about what you read there.

If I can help via a Video Chat, please call on me.

Dr. Judith  Allen 

-- Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist - Clinical Member AAMFT - Licensed Professional Counselor

Subject:Anger and Depression: Two ways we may cover up our feelings


Anger and Depression: Two ways we may cover up our feelings

We often hear about anger and depression being closely related.  On an emotional spectrum, anger may be preferable to depression.  It tends to make us talk more and this gives a better chance to verbalize the feelings that may be covered up with depression.

There is a good chance that the two may even be the same disappointment and hurt, but simply aimed at ourselves, or aimed outwardly to others.

Often depression and anger are just easier than facing an ultimate truth that is being hidden.  Almost like a distraction from a fear, a rejection, a loss, a disappointment, or a feeling about ourselves which is too painful to explore fully, so it’s guarded carefully and covered up.

Frequently in therapy when the roots of the anger and depression are explored and discussed, the feelings of anger diminish, and the feelings of depression seem to lift.  Talk therapy,  as psychotherapy is often called, can help by providing a safe place to process our deepest and scariest thoughts.  When they are shared with another person and new perspective is gained, it’s amazing how your mind can let go, and find a peaceful landing place.

Most of our fears and negative feelings are not real.  They usually are based on perceptual confusion.  Our minds can be introduced to an idea (real or not) and the mind can take in the suggestion and hold it to be an ultimate truth.  When that happens, someone can build his or her perceptions on a mistake. 

If you find yourself feeling frequent anger or depression, it might be good to discuss it with a therapist, to find out what you may be hiding, even from yourself.  A part of you knows what causes the pain.  When you are finally able to express it, you’ll find it can lose its power over you. Your moods may become better very rapidly.  

If you’d like to try a Video Session, please set up an appointment for us to talk.  

I look forward to working with you to make life better.

Dr. Judith Allen, LMFT, LPC, AAMFT

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist -Licensed Professional Counselor-Clinical Member AAMFT – APMHA - ISMHO

Subject:If I Seek Counseling, Am I Crazy?


If I Seek Counseling, Am I Crazy?

People who seek counseling are not crazy. They are not even necessarily sick or at risk. They are simply seeking the answers they need in what is an increasingly complex world. 

Our society has changed over the years. As farmers, we got up in the morning and worked the land.  Our neighbors did the very same, and if there was a drought or a flood, everyone pulled together. The community would jump in to assist when individuals needed help. You knew your neighbors, families were large, and everyone stuck together. Life was hard, but simple. And worries were few, although options were few too. If your father was a farmer, odds were you would be a farmer.

Life has changed in today's world. Families are splintered and we often do not know our neighbors. With the industrial revolution, people have moved into the cities, and we no longer work the land. We work for others for pay, and with the technological revolution, we can get anywhere quickly and get information almost instantaneously.

Despite the advantages of today's technology, there is a price we pay. The farmer was in control of his entire life. He built his own house; repaired his tools and worked according to the seasons. He defined his own needs and was his own boss, even if his choices were narrow.  We have far more opportunities today than our ancestors had, but along with those opportunities come a lot of stress. Sometimes we are still asking ourselves what we want to be when we grow up - well into our 50’s and 60’s. With shifts in society, our opportunities shift and change also. You might be laid off at middle age, or your work might become obsolete. Then, what do you do?

Advertising tells us we should look sexy, have the newest car and own the biggest home. We are bombarded by the message that people who have the most money will be the happiest.  However, often when we achieve these superficial goals, we are still unhappy, and confused about why. 

In our society today, individuals are not expected to know everything!  We have specialists now for almost every service. If your car breaks down, you take it to a mechanic. If your computer needs work, you call a technician.  If you get sick, you go to a doctor, and even depending on what is wrong with you, you look for a specialist in that particular type of medicine.  Calling a mental health professional is not different from finding the right specialist for your health or the health of your automobile or computer. It's no different from seeing a medical doctor for an ailment, or health maintenance.

Therapy can serve many functions - whether you're unhappy with some habits you've developed or you want a serious and private discussion about what stops you from being happy.  Mant adults have childhoods that lacked the tools and validation needed to have good self esteem.  Often people did not have a healthy environment to learn how to set boundaries or to address the after effects of childhood neglect, trauma, or abuse.

The value of a mental health professional is that they are a specialist who has been trained to help individuals who may feel stuck in their lives, have concerns about what is "normal" with regards to thoughts and behaviors, have conflicted relationships with a loved one or co-worker, need someone to discuss a sensitive issue with, or feel emotionally isolated from the rest of the world.  The licensed professional therapist  has been trained to help you find the answers that you want and need, in a safe, supportive environment with the utmost confidentiality.    

If you feel that a professional might be able to assist you in getting on a path to a happier life, why hesitate to call one now, or see a therapist face to face in an office setting?  The telephone can offer additional privacy and you don't need to reveal who you are to the therapist.  

No, you're not crazy, you just think you deserve a specialist!   Please call on me if you would like to talk about your current situation.

Dr. Judith Allen

Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Professional Counselor, Clinical Member AAMFT, APMHA, ISMHO, ADCA



Subject:you are what you eat for sure!

I recently cut out all refined flour and sugar from my daily diet: no bread, crackers, candy, jam, etc. Then I subbed in bread made from sprouted grains, and natural sweeteners like honey and maple syrup. What a difference it's made! My energy levels are up and I don't get the daily crash at 2 or 3 pm like I always used to. Also, my guts are happier (I won't elaborate on that here!). Suffice to say, I start each day with a "get up and go" approach and don't start dragging my a** in the aft.

We have to think about the stuff we are running on. It's not just a matter of "filling the tank".


I do a lot of work with people around their goals. Setting goals puts you in the driver’s seat, giving you the power to transform your life or take a company to another level. Successfully setting and executing goals is not rocket science but there is a tried and true way that works for my clients and me. Sticking to this program guarantee’s success. It doesn’t matter whether your goals are personal or they are used to direct a large enterprise, the steps and the pitfalls are identical. I’ll take you through a quick tour. If you like, you can identify a goal of yours and do a test run of the system.

The steps to executing goals are simple, unambiguous and easy to follow and should be practiced every day. Skipping one step increases the odds that you won’t realize your goal.
The first step to goal setting is to have absolute belief and faith in the process. If you don’t believe you can absolutely transform your life and get what you want, then you might as well put down your pencil and do something else. If you are in doubt, look around you. Everything you can see began as a thought. If you identify something you really want, you can make it happen if want it badly enough.
Visualize what you want. Think of what you deeply desire in your life or where you want your company to be a year from now. What has to change for that to happen? What transformations need to take place? What do you need to know or learn? What spiritual, emotional, personal, financial, social or physical properties need to be addressed? The clearer you can get with each of these dimensions, brings your vision into sharp focus. The clearer you are about what you want, the easier it will be to focus on making it happen. Write down as many things as you can think about. Not being absolutely clear about your vision will make taking action very difficult.
Get it down!Writing down your goals is key to success. A 1953 Yale study followed 100 students to see how they ended up. Only 3% had written goals. Ten years later, this 3% was happier, more satisfied and had reached the goals they had set out to achieve. More importantly, the net worth of that 3% was greater than the rest of the 97% combined. By writing down your goals, you become a creator. Failure to write down your goals often means you will forget them or won’t focus on them, most likely like that other 97%.
If you have multiple goals, you may need to chunk elements of your vision into individual goals. Having a list of twenty or thirty objectives can be hard to keep track of and even more difficult to focus on. Chunking involves grouping “like” items together. For instance let’s say you have goals around taking your business to the next level.  You might chunk your goals into financial, marketing, organizational and so on. It’s easier to focus on a few goals than a list of 20-odd items. Failure to chunk results in failure to focus and loss of direction.
The next step is to identify a purpose for each goal. Knowing why you want to achieve your goals is powerful. Identifying the purpose of your goal will help you instantly recognize why you want that particular goal and whether it’s worth working toward.. Knowing why you want something furnishes motivation to see it through to the finish. After all, if the purpose of earning a million dollars is to put it in the bank to save for a rainy day, you probably won’t be as motivated as if you need it to pay for your child’s cancer treatment. Your purpose says a lot about you as a person and your goals.
The next step of goal setting is to commit to your goals. This might sound obvious to you but it’s a step that has huge consequences when it is taken lightly. Write a few pages about why and how you are committing to each goal; why it’s important to you, what it means to you, why the outcome is necessary and what are you going to do to make it happen. Without strong commitment you aren’t likely to follow through.
Stay focused. By staying focused on your goals, you manifest. You may not know how you’ll reach your goals but when you make a daily practice of focusing on your goals, they become easier to reach. The more you focus, the more people and things will come into your life that help make your goals a reality. Having your goals written down somewhere where you will see them each day is a good idea. Your mind will notice that there is a discrepancy between where you are now and where you want to be which will create pressure. Pressure is motivation to change. If you lose focus you can always bring it back. Without a regular practice of focusing on your goals you will get distracted by something and your goal will disappear.
The next step is to create a plan of action. Being really clear about what you want, knowing your purpose, writing your goals down, committing to them, and staying focused gives you the power of clarity to write down a list of action steps the need to be executed over the year. You may not know all the steps ahead of time but you will know the next steps that take you in that direction. Even if you don’t know how you are going to do something, write it down and when the time comes, you will be surprised at the options that may appear. Having goals without a plan of action is like trying to complete a complex project without a project plan. There is too much going on, it’s too disorganized, you miss deadlines and you don’t have priorities. Eventually you get frustrated and the project/goal fails or collapses under it’s own weight.
To show how committed you are to your goals, think of something you can do right now that will get you moving toward fulfilling your goal. Even if it’s just making a phone call, do it now. You will be surprised how this simple step reinforces all the previous steps and gets you motivated and moving toward what you desire. Why wait? If you are not motivated to so something right now, how are you going to get motivated tomorrow?
To push through when things get tough, you will have to hold yourself accountable unless you bring in outside help like a coach. It makes sense to have someone besides yourself who can provide valuable feedback at critical junctures, like in the visualization stage. Some people tell their friends and family about their goals which gives them the accountability they need to stick to it. Once you start to achieve some success you will find it easier to keep motivated. Consider having a backup plan. What can you do if you get stuck for too long?
Make it part of your day to review your goals and keep them alive and vital. Following each of these steps will keep your goals top of mind. By following these steps and practicing your goals each day, you have all the elements you need to succeed and achieve your goals. It isn’t always easy to push through. Some days will be easier than others but if you keep focused on your goals you will be amazed at the progress you will make. Remember, almost everything begins as a thought. You can be what you imagine if you follow these simple goal-setting rules.

Subject:What keeps you up at night?

Since we live in such stressful times, it's clear that many people lose sleep as their worries, concerns and challenges interfere with their abilities to feel good, hopeful, empowered and relaxed.  It's time to share those things that keep you up at night, literally or figuratively... since many people (myself included) sleep to avoid thinking about those stresses that are overwhelming, upsetting, frustrating and disturbing, among other feelings.  Let's start here with a list of those concerns, and I'll do my best to address them and through this blog we'll come up with some coping strategies...

The list starts here:

1 Too much to do and not enough time to do it all.... All too often we put way too much on our "to-do" lists and simply feel overwhelmed, inadequate, and like a failure when we don't get it all done.  It's time to be realistic and recognize all the things you do that aren't even on your list that impact how much of your list you can actually accomplish.  How many "little" things pop up in the course of the day that take your time and energy?  Take a look and give yourself credit for those tasks and activities...

The next thing you need to do is STOP!  BREATHE!  & FOCUS!  What are your priorities?  Are you doing at any given moment what it is you need to be doing, or have you gotten off course?  This one step can help you to think about what's on your list and what really needs to be on your list, and whether or not your expectations are realistic.  It's time to be honest about how much time things take and honestly assess the reality of getting things accomplished...

    We'll focus as well as time goes on as to how to deal with those feelings of inadequacy when we feel we have"fallen short" of our goals...  Keep this list growing...   

Subject:Empowerment Series: A Reminder of our priorities in life

A Good Little Reminder

 A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.

When the class began, wordlessly, he picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.  The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full they agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full. The students responded with a unanimous "yes."

The professor then produced two cups of coffee from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar, effectively filling the empty space between the sand. The students laughed.

"Now," said the professor, as the laughter subsided, "I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things - your God, family, your children, your health, your friends, and your favorite passions - things that if everything else was lost and only they remained your life would still be full.  The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house, and your car.  The sand is everything else -- the small stuff.

If you put the sand into the jar first," he continued, "there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff, you will never have room for the things that are important to you.  Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Play with your children. Take time to get medical checkups. Take your partner out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal."

Take care of the golf balls first -- the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand."

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the coffee represented.

The professor smiled. "I'm glad you asked. It just goes to show you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of cups of coffee with a friend."

Subject: H. H. R. (Hopefully Helpful Readings)

Hi Everyone,

I just joined the team here on the site and thought I'd offer some books I've found helpful in case they are for you.


Men are From Mars, Women are from Venus by Dr. John Gray
A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle
Practicing the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida
The Road Less Traveled by M. Scott Peck
Spiritual Liberation by Michael Beckwith
Soulmates by Dr.Carolyn Miller
Listen Little Man by Dr.Wilhelm Reich
Cupid’s Poison Arrow by Marnia Robinson
The Art of Happiness in a Troubled World by H.H. The Dalai Lama & Dr. Howard Cutler
Loving What Is by Byron Katie
The Science of Mind by Ernest Holmes
Power vs. Force by Dr. David Hawkins

Subject:Accent on Creating and Optimism

I've been noticing how much of my personal attention and my client work has been focused lately on being optimistic and steering for the most uplifting way of 'voting' in our feelings and our lives.

There's no substitute for hope except faith (it after all is the evidence of things unseen). Faith in ourselves and our future needs I think to be based on the intention to move toward it and accumulate enough evidence to convince our doubting voices inside that as painful as it's seemed, life in fact has been on our side all along.

And now we can stop learning from pain and do it from joy. We all have that ability, set the intention and look out for the people and events that can help us see and use it.

Aim to create a great day!

Subject:Faith & Hope

·        There's no substitute for hope except faith (it after all is the evidence of things unseen). Faith in ourselves and our future needs I think to be based on the intention to move toward it and accumulate enough evidence to convince our doubting voices inside that as painful as it's seemed, life in fact has been on our side all along.

Subject:Emotional Eating is a Hoax!!

Emotional Eating Is A Hoax!!

North America is obese because of sugar addiction, NOT emotional eating.


Because SUGAR is more addictive

Get off refined white sugar and get
back control of your health and your life.


Do you think emotional eating is the reason why you are mildly overweight or fully obese?

 We are all victims of emotional eating, right? Wrong!

Lots of people, who try to function in today's stressed out world, believe they eat in response to stress. So many people believe that if they could just get stress under control that they could get their weight under control.

Nothing could be further from the truth.

All the commercials and ads all tell you, over and over again, that we eat in response to stress or that we are emotional eaters or that we have no control over ourselves. If you would like to know the truth about emotional eating, eating in response to stress, stress and weight gain or stress and weight loss, then READ ON....

Let me back up a little first.

There is no question that we can all become victims of emotional eating from time to time and there is no question that most of us eat out of habit some of the time.

We tend to be depressed and stressed out much of the time and those of us that don't indulge with food, probably cope with stress by smoking or gambling or some other equally destructive behavior.

However, the really shocking fact is that these two issues - emotional eating and habitual eating are very small issues compared to the primary reason why we are all so FAT.

North America is not obese because of our uncontrollable emotions or bad habits. North America is fat, obese, overweight, chubby, pudgy, heavy, chunky (or whatever you want to call it) because of something called HYPERPHAGIA.

NO, that is not a swear word. It's pronounced "Hi-per-fay-ja." This is a rather fancy sounding scientific word, which simply means uncontrollable hunger. We all suffer from hyperphagia, which is a scientific or medical problem, not an emotional eating problem.

As human beings, we are the most advanced members of the animal kingdom. We are at the top of the food chain. We have incredible brain power and we have opposable thumbs, not paws

If you are, at all, a skeptic, like me, you find it very hard to believe that such advanced, intellectual beings, have so little control over our emotions and habits. If human beings are really that weak, then we don't deserve to be at the top of the animal kingdom.


Sorry, but I just can't wrap my head around the idea of human beings, especially in the developed parts of the world, being so incredibly useless at managing emotion and habit.

Now, don't get me wrong. I used to buy into the whole diet world, too. I've been on Weight Watchers, NutriSystem, Jenny Craig, the South Beach Diet and a whole host of other weight loss plans. I never took diet pills (although I thought about it a few times) and I never did any crazy cleanses or fasts, but I definitely spent a lot of money over the years trying to conquer my advancing weight problem.

I had success at different times, just like most people, but each and every time (you know the drill) I gained it all back and then some.

Then I learned about HYPERPHAGIA.

Which came first...the chicken or the egg?

The truth, about food, stress and emotional eating actually has more to do with science than anything else.

If you want to lose weight and keep it off, you must first get food under control and then you will be able to get stress under control, not the other way around.

Weight gain or weight loss, whichever way you want to look at it has more to do with stress and blood sugar than emotional eating.

Now, I'm not talking about emotional stress here, I'm talking about something called oxidative stress.

Oxidative stress - here's how it works.

FIRST, comes a crazy sugar-filled diet. You eat sugar-coated or sugar-filled everything including white bread, white flour, white potatoes, white rice, white pasta, candy, cakes, pastries, pop tarts and white pizza dough (you get the idea).

SECOND, comes an uncontrollable sugar addiction called hyperphagia that keeps you a slave to cravings for more sugar (also know as simple carbohydrates). This is very different from emotional eating.

THIRD, comes a messed up pancreas (a very important organ in your body) that gets busy trying to produce enough hormones (insulin) to deal with all the sugar you are stuffing into your body. By the way, the more insulin you produce, the less glucagon (another hormone) you produce. Insulin makes you store fat. Glucagon makes you burn fat. You definitely want more glucagon than insulin, not the other way around.

FOURTH, comes a pancreas that doesn't work so good anymore. It's tired and it's worn out. Like the elves in Santa's workshop, your pancreas has been so busy trying to process all the sugar that you eat that now it just needs a long winter's rest. The only problem is that unlike Santa's elves, you need your pancreas to work all the time without taking a rest - EVER.

If it does, you become diabetic.

FIFTH, comes a vicious cycle of over-working your pancreas and constantly spiking your blood sugar all the time. This vicious cycle creates free radicals and free radicals, left unchecked, create oxidative stress. It's oxidative stress that eventually damages your pancreas so much that it stops working.

It's oxidative stress that causes all of the damage, not emotional stress and emotional eating.

This whole process, just like a defiant two-year old, makes you resistant to your insulin. Then the pancreas has to make even more insulin to deal with the same amount of sugar as before and the cycle goes on and on and on. Before you know it, you are obese and you can't even understand how it happened.


You have been on a blood sugar roller coaster for far too long. You eat a high sugar meal, which spikes your blood sugar and for a short time you become hyper-glycemic (high blood sugar).

Then you come down off this high and your body drops into a low blood sugar range called hypo-glycemia. When this happens, your brain freaks out and starts to panic because it needs glucose (sugar) to function and so it starts screaming at you to eat more sugar.

When this happens, you feel terrible and it has nothing to do with emotional eating. You get cranky, feel faint, get headaches and feel like you are going to starve. But take a deep breath, because this is just your brain having a temper tantrum.

Remember when your child threw himself or herself down on the floor and started kicking his or her feet and screaming and crying. It's exactly the same thing. Your brain is throwing a hissy fit. It's behaving like a spoiled child.

But, just like with parenting, each and every time your child behaves this way, you have a choice as to how you will respond to your child, or in this case, respond to your brain's demand for glucose. Will you give it everything it seems to want, even if it means your child will grow up to be a spoiled rotten brat or will you give that child what he or she needs, which can sometimes be tough love and discipline.

Now, you don't want to completely ignore your brain, like you might a naughty child, but you also don't have to come running and give in to every single demand.

We all know that some parents truly don't understand or accept this phenomenon and they give into the child's every whim, but there are enough parents out there who do understand this reality that they are able to raise their children to become relatively well-balanced adults.

The point is, if you see hyperphagia for what it is, which is not emotional eating at all, but rather a scientific problem, then you will be able to control your unruly toddler or your unruly brain and as a result you will be able to tackle the largest factor that is keeping you fat.

Tough Love and Discipline

When your brain gets grumpy because it has dropped into the low glycemic range and begins to throws its daily, sometimes hourly, hissy fit or temper tantrum, you have the choice to give it more sugar or you can choose to give it protein and complex carbohydrates.

If you give it more sugar, you just create the conditions for another hissy fit in a couple of hours, when you drop into the low blood sugar range again, but if you give it protein and complex carbohydrates, then you will not spike your blood sugar, and you will not create the conditions for another temper tantrum in two or three hours.

You see, the brain does not care where the sugar comes from and all foods have some sugar. Your brain doesn't need a lot to be happy and it doesn't need the sugar to be simple or highly processed. If you give your body some protein or complex carbohydrates, your brain will be just as happy as if you gave it a double fudge, banana split sundae with caramel, nuts and colored sprinkles. Unlike children, your brain, in fact, likes broccoli and spinach.

All's fair in love, war and parenting toddlers...

Can you imagine living with a child, who can't communicate well because he or she is a toddler and having that child throw a temper tantrum every two or three hours every day and every night forever. My guess is that the parent would eventually want to get rid of the child. Any parent who had to deal with this type of behavior endlessly, would either need drugs or a gun or both.

The truth is that we don't stand for this with our children, so why do we stand for this with our bodies. Your brain screams for food and you instantly give it more sugar. Two hours go by and it screams again and you give it more sugar.

Your brain, just like a defiant child, can be fairly crafty and manipulative, too. Years ago, I had a young family member who would actually plan her temper tantrums. She would strategically place pillows around the four corners of the living room, so that she could throw herself on them later when she had a hissy fit and in this way she wouldn't hurt herself. It was brilliant if you ask me. Your brain is crafty as well. Your brain will actually try to make you believe that you will die if you don't get sugar.

So now you understand the bigger picture. Emotional eating and habitual eating are definitely part of the problem, but until we conquer hyperphagia or the brain's regular hissy fits, you can never truly get back control of your health and your life.

Taking it one step further...

To help you understand the difference between emotional eating and insulin resistance a little better, just imagine the child with the terrible behavior again.

The temper tantrums example works well to help describe a growing problem with your pancreas too. Over time, the child's tantrums would have to get more creative or much stronger or much worse to have the same effect on the parent. In other words, the child would have to work harder each time to get the same response from the parent. The parent builds up a resistance to the behavior What may have started as light crying and whimpering, might have grown into extreme whining and eventually became all out screaming, yelling, crying, hitting and kicking - even biting. This same child, as a teenager, would be a scary force to deal with.

The same is true with your pancreas. You have been indulging the sugar cravings for so long that your pancreas must now work harder each time to produce the same amount of insulin and it must produce more insulin each time to deal with the same amount of sugar. That's because your brain has cried wolf so many times that your pancreas doesn't leap off the couch anymore to respond to the temper tantrum. It's like he or she doesn't care anymore what the child does or doesn't do.

This whole time, you've believed you have an emotional eating problem, when you really have a scientific, medical problem. Unfortunately, just like a worn out parent, you now have a worn out pancreas.

It might not be too late, though... Read On.

I know the information that I have laid out here seems like the situation is beyond your control, but it's not. The good news is that you may not be diabetic yet, instead you might only have gotten as far as Metabolic Syndrome, the condition formerly known as Syndrome X.

Metabolic Syndrome isn't great, but it's not as bad as full on Type 2 Diabetes Mellitus. If you only have Metabolic Syndrome, then, at least, your pancreas still works, a little. Now that you know its probably not emotional eating that's keeping you fat, you still have a chance to reverse the damage. You still have a chance to get your unruly, demanding brain under control and you have a chance to neutralize the free radicals. If you do this, you can stop oxidative stress from getting worse and you can prevent diabetes.


Sorry, I don't mean to yell, but it's critical that you start as soon as possible. So, stop sitting around with the mistaken belief that you will always be the victim of emotional eating or that there's nothing you can do about the fact that you eat in response to stress.

The program that I used to deal with my hyperphagia is Dr. Ray Strand's Healthy for Life Program and it worked so well for me that I became a certified Team Leader in the Healthy for Life Program. Now, I help others get back in control of their health and their life. If this program can help me after 25 years of losing the diet war, then it can help you too.

Feel free to go click the image below to go to Dr. Strand's site and get started on the program right away. When you click the "JOIN NOW" button, at the top of the screen, you will be taken to a price page and you will be asked (in red) if you have a discount code. Feel free to use my discount code "futurefocus" to get a 20% discount. Once you sign up, please drop me an e-mail through the Healthy for Life site and I will do my best to answer your questions.

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You could think that buying a Coach handbag to order is actually just determining the right color combination to suit your dress (i always concur, just isn't simple things like it sounds). Even though it is essential to pick a qualified colors, it is additionally essential to choose the bag determined by its size and shape, not forgetting its design and just how they fit using the occasion. Some women neglect the significance of is very important of the bag, which will actually assist with flatter your whole body shape. As an example, when you are tall and slim, you'd look better with Coach handbags which might be round or squarish looking, whereas, if you're petite including a little for the heavy side, you are going to look a lot better by using a slim and long-shaped handbag. You want to invest in a bag that may balance out your entire body shape. In other words, choose people that are the exact opposite of what your body shape is. The reasoning behind this can be which it gives an illusion to folks who look at you, much like the fact that person would look fatter in a shirt which includes horizontal lines compared to the same person wearing a shirt with vertical lines. The real key again should be to balance the so-called "illusion" of how people perceive you with the Coach bag. So here are the facts to consider when purchasing the Coach bags:- 1. Pick the correct size of the Coach Handbag This can be a the very first thing consider as it lets the Coach bag to fit nicely along with your bodily proportions. You would like the bag to adjust to you, not the other way around. It doesn't matter how fashionable your handbag is, doesn't necessarily look great on you should the dimensions are not suitable for you.

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When looking at your treasured fragrances, or simply wondered the way in which they usually are categorized? Tradition states that all fragrance belongs to at least one specific class or household.Even though they've already different bands, there really are six basic groups of perfumes.A categories happen to be:

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Most people often look for and follow one unique fragrance, but others wish to mix the idea up and also base the fragrance individuals wear within the mood they're just in which will day, some even change it out with the prevailing season.Also, age often is available to enormously affect the options of scent.As women ages, the chosen fragrance matures together.

I want to talk a bit about multiple families regarding fragrances.The nice or floral family just might be the best of all those meals and hails from a various flowers.These are commonly view since youthful and tend to be worn by younger ladies or women which are playful.Some situations of fragrances in such a family usually are Curious, Chanel virtually no 22, Fulfillment, Pleasures, Safari for girls, and L'Air Du Temperature ranges.

While in the clean together with sporty home, this will likely be the reminder from the smell when you initially leave the particular shower and generally smells akin to soap.Ordinarily, these earn perfect gifts for any that are generally athletic inside nature.Some situations of this manner include, Alliage, Cashmere Air, Polo for girls, Lily Tasteful, and Tommy Gal.

The scented of healthy or green is actually a down to help earth along with fresh types of scent, perfect those of you that like to help you feel healthy and genuine.A few these include Escape for girls, London, Chanel Virtually no.5, Truth for girls, Poison, plus White Jewels.

Fats and musks happen to be suggestive, naughty, and sturdy scents.Generally used any time a person wishes to communicate certain ways to their fan.It is normally deemed by far the most powerful involving oil fragrances.Some samples are The sun, Moon, plus Stars, E Oui, Caleche, Shalimar, plus L'Aminant.

While in the chypre in addition to woody friends and family, it is often compared to help earthy factors.It is able to combine scents connected with earth and also floral ideal for those that love simply being in nature and also outdoors.Some situations include Lose Doir, Covet, Chanel Virtually no.19, plus Romance.

As a final point, in the family unit of hot and spicy and oriental, this combines the odors of vanilla, family pets, woods, plus flowers alongside one another.It may be very exotic in addition to enjoyed many by women whos bold, formidable, and warm.Some these include, Youth Dew, Preoccupation, Organza, Opium, whilst still being.

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Coach Luggage Bag - Lvidity with Black Leather and White Strip

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A Multiple luxury car is a wonderful alternative to be able to other high-end cars and trucks.A deluxe vehicle being a BMW is a sensible way to show out your good sense of layout.But using a Hybrid automobile you will additionally be triggering the environment along with showing out your feel of trend.

The reason a Cross?

Hybrids are usually an economic strategy to customize a person's monthly shelling out.Instead regarding paying a massive car payment you may enjoy a minute payment and perhaps smaller petrol bill.Toyota, Ford, and a great many other automotive brands have become offering cross types vehicles in order to reach all your customer requires.

The consumer's specifications is usually matched particularly and you can find just countless personalized aspects to somewhat of a hybrid automotive.Vehicle customizing will be as simple being a certain sort of leather to the seats, or since complex to be a video tracking system.

Women of all ages and Hybrids

An increasing number of women are fascination with acquiring an extravagance car.These women of all ages enjoy an auto that they're able to show away in.They will not want the car for the customized program performance.As a substitute, they are searhing for the overall benefit of the used car.Hybrids usually make a wonderful choice to get a woman.These cars will still be aesthetically appealing and so they also are kind to the environment.

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Many those people who are getting any customized comfort car or maybe van may find it hard to wait that long for their particular vehicle.This is usually a big deterrent for many who are aiming to decide in order to customize your vehicle as well as not.It is certainly hard to state you could wait 8-weeks for one customized vehicle when you might get a typical one straight away.

Another problem many people have using a customized vehicle could be the pricing.Although a lot of people who wish to have an auto customized typically are not too concered about the expense, the in order to that personalization can run with the thousands.

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A typical person over street just isn't likely to demand customization for a vehicle.The expense is quite large and they often very like the frequent stock upgrades the fact that person might get.

Hybrid vehicles along with luxury autos are a sensible way to show off your special sense for style.When you have one of those types about vehicles next you will generally take pride in the car.You might show off every one of the custom features you possessed incorporated to help make it feel a lot more like your own personal vehicle.

A cross car is usually an economical preference with present day rising energy prices.Even the luxurious models find yourself being a fantastic choice when you start seeing all any saving you will get just with gas introduced.Remember so that you can compare prices while you are purchasing an extra car.Only a few dealerships are manufactured equally, so you should find the dealership which will offer you the amount of support you would like throughout your car or truck purchase.

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The Inspector Digital Pocket Geiger Counter

The Inspector, the most sensitive pocket Geiger counter available, offers a digital readout instead of a traditional analog meter visual readout, as shown in these pictures.?  The readout is displayed with a red count light and audible beep (play this sound file), providing instant indications of the radiation level.

This unit also has a very large detector, with a diameter of 45 mm (1.75 in), increasing the efficiency of radioactivity detection, and offering excellent sensitivity to low levels of Alpha, Beta, Gamma, and X-rays.?  See picture at right.?  This feature makes the Inspector suitable for applications requiring higher levels of sensitivity such as checking food for radioactive contamination.

With the recent addition of a user-settable Audible Alert, the Inspector has been re-named the Inspector + or Inspector Alert.?  This is the same alert feature as is found on the Radalert 50.?  The controls are on the top panel of the unit (see photo).

The Inspector also includes an adjustable timer used to set sampling periods of 1 minute, 10 minutes, or 1 hour, up to 24 hours.?  See the photo above.

This unit also has an output port to record counts on a computer or data logger, as shown in the picture below. Select the navigation button above or click on this link for more on Data Output and Software.?  This port can alternatively be used for audio output through earphones.?  An external calibration port is also located on the side of the instrument.

The Inspector also comes with a padded vinyl carrying case (below) with belt clip.?  Select the navigation button above, or click here for detailed Specifications on the Inspector.

The Inspector is a very popular unit.?  If you want a Pocket Geiger Counter with excellent sensitivity, user-adjustable audible alert, a timer and/or data port, and prefer a digital readout versus an analog meter, we recommend this unit.

The Inspector will come with either the blue and yellow accents on the control panel as shown at top, or in the classic Black and Silver color scheme shown at right.

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The North Face Syncline GTX Shoes Men Black

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The North Face Men Shoes is designed for excellence in outdoor terrain.The Gore-Tex XCR membrane gives optimal water proof capabilities when you're trudging through a wet trail, while the extremely breathable mesh back lets moisture escape as well. The shoes narrow guage webbing with synthetic leather strapping provide a supportive fit needed for the unexpected twist and turns of your run and also amplifies the speed lacing for a snug fit.The North Face Betasso Shoes Men Gray/Red will be your best choice for outdoor activities.

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